The Secret Of
Success
By William Walker Atkinson
1907
The Secret of
Success
It is with some hesitation that we
bring ourselves to write this little book, entitled "The Secret
of Success." Not that we are not in sympathy with the subject -
not that we do not believe that there is a "Secret of Success"
- but because there has been so much written on the subject of
"Success" that is the veriest twaddle - masses of
platitudinous wordiness - that we hesitate to take the position of a
teacher of Success. It is so easy to fill pages of paper with good
advice - it is so much easier to say things than to do them - so much
easier to formulate a code of precepts than to get out into the field
of active endeavor and put into practice the same percepts. And, you
may imagine why we hesitate to assume a role which would lay us open
to the suspicion of being one of the "do as I tell you, and not
as I do" teachers of the Art of Success.
But there is another side of the
question. There is, besides the mere recital of a List of Good
Qualities Leading to Success - a list with which every schoolboy and
reader of the magazines is acquainted - a Something Else; and that
Something Else, is a suggestion that the Seeker for Success has a
Something Within himself which if expressed into activity and action
will prove of great value to him - a veritable Secret of Success,
instead of a code of rules. And, so we propose to devote this little
book to unfolding our idea of what this Something Within is, and what
it will do for one who will unfold it and thus express it into
action. So, therefore, do not expect to find this book a "Complete
Compendium of Rules Conducive to Success, Approved of and Formulated
by the Successful Men of the World who became acquainted with these
Rules only after they had Attained Success, and consequently had Time
and Inclination to Preach to Others." This is not a book of that
sort. It is Quite Different. We hope you will like it - it will do
you good in any event.
All people are striving and seeking
Success. Their idea of Success may differ, but they have all agreed
upon the desirability of Attainment. "Attainment"-that is
the word, which embodies the essence of that which we call Success.
It is the "Getting-There" idea - the idea of Attainment -
of Reaching the Goal for which we set out. That is the story -
Attainment.
Many men and women have endeavored to
point out the way to Success, and while some have rendered valuable
service to those who were following them on the Path of Attainment,
yet none have been able to tell the whole story of Success. And this
is not to be wondered about, for the reason that on the road to
Success each and every individual must be, in a measure a law unto
himself, or herself. No two temperaments are exactly alike - Nature
delights in variety; no two sets of circumstances are precisely the
same - infinite variety manifests here also. And so it would be folly
to attempt to lay down rules of universal application, which would
surely lead all to the great goal of Success. One has but to look
around him on all sides and see the different needs of the different
individuals composing the crowd, in order to recognize the futility
of any attempt to lay down lines of universal instruction on this
subject. Each and every man who has succeeded has done so in a
different way - generally along some original lines of action - in
fact, the faculty or characteristic known as Individuality, seems to
have played an important part in the success of the majority of
persons who have attained it. And Individuality renders those
possessing it to a marked degree to be likely to depart from any set
of rules or laid-out courses of action. And so, it may be stated as a
general principle that each must work out his own Success along the
lines of his own Individuality, rather than by following any set rule
or line of conduct.
In view of what we have just said, it
may seem strange that feeling as we do we have ventured to write a
little book entitled "The Secret of Success," -particularly
as we have started the said book by declaring the impossibility of
laying down any set rules on the subject. This may seem like a
paradox, but a little examination will show you that it is not so. It
is true that we believe that each and every person must work out his
own Success, along the lines of his own Individuality, instead of
along some cut-and-dried plan. And right here is where the "Secret
of Success" comes in. "Along the lines of his own
individuality," we have just said - then it must follow that one
must possess Individuality before he may work along its "lines.
"And in the measure that he possesses Individuality, so will he
possess the first prerequisite to Success. And that is what we mean
by "The Secret of Success" - INDIVIDUALITY.
Every person possesses dormant and
latent Individuality - but only a few allow it to express itself. The
majority of us are like human sheep trotting along complacently after
some self-assertive bellwether, whose tinkling bell serves to guide
our footsteps. We have absorbed the notion somehow that these
bellwethers possess the sum and substance of human knowledge and
power, and ability to think - and instead of unfolding our own
dormant powers, and latent possibilities, we allow them to remain in
obscurity, and we trot along, jogitty-joggity-jog after our pet
bellwether. People are very much like sheep in this way - they are
obedient and imitative animals, and rather than assume the
responsibility of directing their own footsteps, they wait until
someone takes the lead, and then away they stampede after him. Is it
any wonder that the leaders claim the choicest pickings for
themselves, and allow the flock to get only the scrubby grass? Not a
bit of it - they have earned the choice bits by reason of lock of
Individuality and Initiative on the part of those following them - in
fact, they were chosen as leaders because of this self-assertive, and
self-directive quality. If they had stood back in a modest, mild
manner, they would have been pushed aside by the flock that would
disclaim them as leaders, in favor of others who knew how to push to
the front.
Now, in this little book we shall not
endeavor to awaken a spirit of "bellwetherism" in you, nor
to urge you to strive to lead the flock – there is nothing in the
mere leading of people other than vainglory and petty
self-satisfaction. The desirable thing is to possess sufficient
Individuality and Initiative to be your own bellwether – to be a
law unto yourself, so far as other men are concerned. The great men –
the strong men – care nothing for the flock, which so obediently
trots along after them. They derive no satisfaction from this thing,
which pleases only inferior minds, and gratifies only petty natures
and ambitions. The big men – the great spirits of all ages – have
derived more satisfaction from that inward conviction of strength and
ability which they felt unfolding into activity within themselves,
than in the plaudits of the mob, or in the servility of those
imitative creatures who sought to follow in their footsteps.
And, this thing called Individuality is
a real thing. Inherent in each of us, and which may be developed and
brought into activity in each one of us if we go about it right.
Individuality is the expression of our Self – that Self which is
what we mean when we say "I". Each of us is an Individual –
an "I" – differing from every other "I" in the
universe, so far as personal expression is concerned. And in the
measure that we express and unfold the powers of that "I",
so are we great, strong and successful. We all "have it in us"
– it depends upon us to get it out into Expression. And, this
Individual Expression lies at the heart of the "Secret of
Success". And that is why we use the term – and that is what
we shall tell you about in this little book. It will pay for you to
learn this "Secret".
The Individual
In our last lesson we stated that we
considered the "Secret of Success" to consist principally
of the Free Expression of the Individual - the "I." But
before you will be able to apply this idea successfully, you must
first awaken to a realization of what the Individual - the "I"
within you - really is. This statement may appear ridiculous at first
to many of you, but it will pay you to acquaint yourself fully with
the idea behind it, for upon the true realization of "I"
comes Power.
If you will stop and take stock of
yourself, you will find that you are a more complex being than you
had at first considered yourself to be. In the first place there is
the "I," which is the Real Self or the Individual, and
there is the "Me," which is something attached to and
belonging to the "I" - the Personality. For proof of this,
let the "I" take stock of the "Me," and it will
find that the latter consists of three phases or principles, (ie. 1.
The Physical Body; 2. The Vital Energy; 3. The Mind). Many people are
in the habitat of regarding their bodies as the "I" part of
them, but a little consideration will show them that the body is but
a material covering, or machine through which and by means of which
the "I" is able to manifest itself. A little thought will
show that one may be vividly conscious of the "I Am" part
of himself while totally oblivious of the presence of the physical
body. This being so, it follows that the "I" is independent
of the body, and that the latter falls into the "Me"
classification. The physical body may exist after the "I"
has left it - the dead body is not the "I." The physical
body is composed of countless particles which are changing places
every moment of our lives - our body of today is entirely different
from our body of a year ago.
Then comes the second principle of the
"Me" - the Vital Energy, or what many call Life. This is
seen to be independent of the body, which it energizes, but it, too,
is transitory and changeable, and readily may be seen to be but a
something used to animate and energize the body - an instrument of
the "I," and therefore a principle of the "Me".
What, then, is left to the "I" to examine and determine its
nature? The answer that comes naturally to the lips is, "The
Mind, by which I know the truth of what you have just said. "But,
stop a moment, you have said, speaking of the mind, "by which I
know" – have you not, in saying this, acknowledged the mind to
be a something through which the "I" acts? Think a moment -
is the mind YOU? You are aware that your mental states change - your
emotions vary - your feelings differ from time to time - your very
ideas and thoughts are inconsistent and are subject to outside
influences, or else are molded and governed by that which you call
"I", or your Real Self. Then there must be something behind
Mental States, Ideas, Feelings, Thoughts, etc., which is superior to
them and which "knows" them just as one knows a thing apart
from itself but which it uses. You say "I" feel; "I"
think; "I" believe; "I" know; "I" will;
etc. , etc. Now which is the Real Self? The Mental States just
mentioned or the "I" which is the subject or Real Cause of
the mental phenomena? It is not the Mind that knows, but the "I"
which uses the Mind in order to know. This may seem a little abstruse
to you if you have never been made a study of the subject, but think
it over a little and the idea will clearly define itself in your
mind.
We are not telling you these things
merely to give you an idea of metaphysics, philosophy, or psychology
- there are many books that go into these matters at length and in
detail - so it is not for that reason. The real reason is that with a
realization of the "I" or Real Self, comes a sense of Power
that will manifest through you and make you strong. The awakening to
a realization of the "I", in its clearness and vividness,
will cause you to feel a sense of Being and Power that you have never
before known. Before you can express Individuality, you must realize
that you are an Individual. And you must be aware of this "I"
within you before you can realize that you are an Individual.
The "Me" side of you is what
is called Personality, to the outer appearance of yourself. Your
Personality is made up of countless characteristics, traits, habits,
thoughts, expressions and motions - it is a bunch of peculiarities
and personal traits that you have been thinking was the real "I"
all this time. But it is not. Do you know what the idea of
Personality arose from? Let us tell you. Turn to the pages of any
good dictionary, and you will see that the word originated from the
Latin word "Persona", meaning "a mask used by actors
in ancient times", and which the word in turn was derived from
two other words, "sonare," meaning to "sound,"
and "per," meaning"through," the two words
combined meaning "to sound through" - the idea being that
the voice of the actor sounded through the mask of the assumed
personality or character. Webster gives the following as one of the
meanings of "Person," even to this day: "A character
or part, as in a play; an assumed character." So then,
Personality means the part you are playing in the Great Play of Life,
on the Stage of the Universe. The real Individual concealed behind
the mask of Personality is YOU - the Real Self - the "I" -
that part of you which you are conscious when you say "I AM,"
which is your assertion of existence and latent power. "Individual"
means something that cannot be divided or subtracted from - something
that cannot be injured or hurt by outside forces - something REAL.
And you are an Individual - a Real Self - an "I" -
Something endowed with Life, Mind, and Power, to use, as you will.
A poet named Orr wrote:
Lord of a thousand
worlds am I,
And I reign since time began;
And night and day, in cyclic sway,
Shall pass while their deeds I scan.
Yet time shall cease ere I find release,
For I AM the soul of Man
And I reign since time began;
And night and day, in cyclic sway,
Shall pass while their deeds I scan.
Yet time shall cease ere I find release,
For I AM the soul of Man
Spiritedness
To many of you, the title of this
lesson - Spiritedness - may seem to have some connection with
"spirits," "disembodied entities," or else the
"soul" or some higher part of it, to which the name Spirit
is often applied. But, in this case, we use the word in a different
sense, and yet in a sense approved by many advanced teachers and
investigators of the occult and spiritual. One of the meanings of the
word"spirit" as given by Webster is as follows:"Energy,
vivacity, ardor, enthusiasm, courage," etc. , while the same
authority defines the word "spirited" as:"Animated;
full of life and vigor, lively," etc. These definitions will
give you a hint of the sense in which we are now using the term, but
there is still more to it.
To us the word Spirit expresses the
idea of the real essential nature of the Universal Power, and which
is also manifested in man as the center of his being - his essential
strength and power, from whence proceeds all that renders him an
Individual. Spiritedness does not mean the quality of being ethereal,
"goody-goody," spiritual, otherworldly, or anything of that
sort. It means the state of being "animated," meaning,
"possessed of life and vigor" - so that the state is really
that of being filled with Power and Life. And that Power and Life
comes from the very center of one’s being - the "I AM"
region or plane of mind and consciousness.
Spiritedness is manifested in different
degrees among different men - and even among the animals. It is an
elementary, fundamental, primitive quality and expression of Life,
and does not depend upon culture, refinement or education - its
development seems to depend upon such instinctive or intuitional
recognition of the Something Within - the Power of the Individual
which is derived from that Universal Power of which we are all
expressions. And even some of the animals seem to possess it.
A recent writer on the "Taming of
Animals" expresses instinctive realization of Spiritedness among
some of the higher animals as follows:"Put two male baboons in
the same cage, and they will open their mouths, show all their teeth,
and ‘blow’ at each other. But one of them, even though he may
possess the uglier dentition, will blow with a difference, with an
inward shakiness that marks him as the under dog at once. No test of
battle is needed at all. It is the same with the big cats. Put two,
or four, or a dozen lions together, and they also, probably without a
single contest, will soon discover which one of them possesses the
mettle of the master. Thereafter he takes the choice of the meat; if
he chooses, the rest shall not even begin to eat until he has
finished; he goes first to the fresh pan of water. In short he is
‘king of the cage. ’Now, then, when a tamer goes into a den with
a big cat that has taken a notion to act ‘funny,’ his attitude is
almost exactly that of the ‘king beast’ above mentioned would be
toward a subject rash and ill advised enough to challenge his
kingship."
You will notice in the above quotation,
that the writer states clearly that it is not always the baboon with
the fiercest tusks that is the master, neither does the "king
lion" necessarily assert his dominion by winning a physical
fight - it is something far more subtle than the physical - it is the
manifestation of some soul quality of the animal. And so it is with
men, it is not always the biggest and strongest physically who rule
-the ruler becomes so by reason of the mysterious soul quality which
we call Spiritedness, and which men often call "nerve," or
"mettle," or "sand." When two individuals come
into contact with each other there is mental struggle - there may not
be even a word uttered - and yet soul grapples with soul as the two
pairs of eyes gaze into each other, and a subtle something in each
engages and grapples with a subtle something in the other. It may be
all over in a moment, but the conflict is settled for the time, and
each of the mental combatants knows that he is victor or defeated, as
the case may be. There may be no feeling of antagonism between the
parties engaging, but nevertheless there seems to be an inward
recognition on both sides that there is something between them always
leads. And this leadership does not depend upon physical strength,
intellectual attainment, or culture in the ordinary sense, but upon
the manifestation and recognition of that subtle quality that we have
called Spirit.
People unconsciously assert their
recognition of quality in themselves and others, by their use of the
term. We often hear of people "lacking spirit"; being
"spiritless"; and of others having had "their spirit
broken;" etc. The term is used in the sense of "mettle. "A
"mettled" horse or man is "high-spirited,"
according to the dictionaries; and the same authorities define
"mettlesome" as "full of spirit," so you see the
term is used as we have employed it - but the explanation of the
source of the "spiritedness" is not given. Breeders of
thoroughbred racing horses will tell you that a horse having "spirit"
will run a gamer race and will often outdistance and out-wind a horse
having higher physical characteristics, but less "spirit"
or "class." Horsemen insist that the possession of "spirit"
in a horse is recognized by the other horses, who are effected by it
and become discouraged and allow themselves to be beaten, although
often they may be better racing machines, physically. This spirit is
a fundamental vital strength possessed by all living things in
degrees - and it may be developed and strengthened in one’s self.
In our next lesson we shall recite a few instances of its
manifestation among men.
Oliver Wendell Holmes, in one of his
books, gives the following vivid description of the conflict of
spiritedness between two men: "The Koh-i-noor’s face turned so
white with rage that his blue-black mustache and beard looked fearful
against it. He grinned with wrath, and caught at a tumbler, as if he
would have thrown its contents at the speaker. The young Marylander
fixed his clear, steady eye upon him, and laid his hand on his arm,
carelessly almost, but the Jewel felt that he could not move it. It
was no use. The youth was his master, and in a deadly Indian hug in
which men wrestle with their eyes, over in five seconds, but which
breaks one of their two backs, and is good for three score years and
ten, one trial enough - settles the whole matter - just as when two
feathered songsters of the barnyard, game and dunghill, come
together. After a jump or two at each other, and a few sharp kicks,
there is an end to it; and it is ‘After you, monsieur,’ with the
beaten party in all the social relations for all the rest of his
days."
Fothergill says: "Emily Bronte
sketched out her ideal of a being possessed of immense willpower in a
thorough ruffian - Heathcliff. A massive, muscular brute! Well, it
was a girl’s conception of a strong man; but I think I have seen
some quiet, inoffensive-looking men in spectacles, who could very
soon have shown the ruffian where the superiority lay."
A celebrated historical example of
Spiritedness, under apparently overwhelming odds, is that of the
interview between Hugo, Bishop of Lincoln and Richard Coeur de Lion,
in the church of Roche d’Andeli. In his desire to prosecute the war
in Normandy, Richard demanded additional supplies and money from his
barons and bishops, but Hugo refused to furnish men or money. He
claimed that although the See of Lincoln was legally bound to supply
men and money for military service within the four seas of Britain,
the war in Normandy did not come under that head, and he defied the
king. King Richard, called the Lion-Hearted, was a dangerous man to
defy, and so when he summoned Bishop Hugo to Normandy, and the latter
went forth to beard the lion in his den, few doubted the outcome, and
the bishop’s downfall was taken as a matter of course. When the
bishop landed in Normandy two friendly barons who informed him that
the king was in a terrible rage against him, and who advised him to
send some humble, conciliatory message to him before entering the
royal presence. But the bishop refused to do this, and proceeded
boldly to meet his monarch. Richard was sitting at Mass when the
bishop entered. Hugo walked up to him, and disregarding his frown,
said,"Kiss me, my lord King!" Richard turned wrathfully
away, withholding his salute. But Hugo, gazing into his eyes, and
shaking the royal shoulder vigorously, repeated his demand. "Thou
hast not deserved it," roared the king in anger and chagrin. "I
have," retorted Hugo, shaking the royal shoulder the harder. The
king gradually dropped his eyes from those of the bishop, and gave
the kingly salute and kiss, and the bishop passed on calmly to take
part in the service. Hugo afterward defied the king in his council
chamber, and persisted in his refusal, and even ventured to rebuke
his royal master for infidelity to the queen. The council was
astounded, for knowing Richard’s courage and fiery temper they
expected to see Hugo crush in a moment - but instead he emerged the
victor in the struggle of Spiritedness. The historian says: "The
Lion was tamed for the moment. The King acknowledged nothing, but
restrained his passion, remarking afterward, ‘If all bishops were
like my lord of Lincoln, not a prince among us could lift his head
among them. ’"
And this was not the first time that
this doughty Bishop of Lincoln had vanquished a king. In his earlier
days, shortly after King Henry Plantagenet had created him bishop, he
became involved in a fierce dispute with that monarch. Henry was at
Woodstock Park surrounded by his courtiers when Hugo approached. The
king feigned not to see the bishop, taking no notice whatsoever of
him. After a few moments of strained silence, the bishop, pushing
aside a powerful earl who was seated by the king’s side, took his
place beside the king. The king pretended to be mending his leather
glove. The bishop cheerfully and lightly said: "Your Majesty
reminds me of your cousin at Falaise." Falaise was the place at
which Henry’s ancestor Duke Robert met Arlotta, the daughter of a
tanner of leather, who bore him his illegitimate son who was
afterward known as William the Conqueror. The Bishop’s impudent
allusion to the king’s ancestry was too much for the latter, and he
was badly worsted in the encounter and later acceded to the wishes of
the bishop.
But as Fothergill truly says: "It
is a great mistake to suppose that this Will is disposed to air
itself on all occasions; far from it. It often has a tendency to
conceal itself, and is not rarely found under and exterior of much
pleasantness. There are men, and women, too, who present an
appearance of such politeness that they seem to have no will of their
own; they apparently exist merely to do what is agreeable to others;
but just wait till the time comes, and then the latent will-power is
revealed, and we find under this velvet glove the iron hand - and no
mistake about it. It is the secret of the diplomatist. Talleyrand
possessed it to a remarkable degree, and was a cool, bold, successful
diplomat; Cavour also possessed this power and used it wisely. The
blusterer and bragger are devoid of it." It is a subtle, tenuous
Power, resting latent beneath the surface and out of evidence - but
when needed it flashes forth like the dynamic electric spark, driving
all before it. It is an elemental force, of irresistible power.
Latent Powers
The majority of you know by actual
experience in everyday life that we have within our physical organism
that which we call "second-wind." We have essayed some
physical task, and after a bit found ourselves "winded,"
that is short of breath, and we are tempted to stop and rest our
panting bodies. But, we have also found by experience that if we will
stick to the task at hand the feeling of physical distress will
usually pass away, and we will gain what is called our "second-wind."
Now just what this "second-wind" is, is a matter that has
long perplexed physiologists, and even today they have not been able
to hand us down a very good guess at the underlying cause of the
phenomenon. It seems to be a fresh start acquired by reason of the
opening up of reserve stores of vital energy – latent physical
power stored away for such emergencies. All persons who have engaged
in athletic sports know very well the details of this peculiar
physiological phenomenon – its actuality is too firmly established
to admit any doubt.
And, as is often the case, examination
shows a curious parallel between the working of Nature on the mental
plane and on the physical. Just as there is a physical "second-wind,"
so is there a mental reserve force or latent energy upon which we can
draw and thus get a fresh start. The phenomena attendant upon
physical "second-wind," as noted above, is almost exactly
duplicated by certain mental phenomena. We may be jaded while
performing some tedious bit of mental work, and we begin to feel that
we are "all in," when lo! Some new in – and away we are
off with a full mental "second-wind" doing our work with a
freshness, vigor and enthusiasm far surpassing the original effort.
We have tapped into a fresh source or supply of mental energy.
The majority of us have little or no
conception of the reserve mental energies and forces contained within
our being. We jog along at our customary gait, thinking that we are
doing our best and getting all out of life that there is in it –
think we are expressing ourselves to our utmost capacity. But we are
living only in the first-wind mental state, and behind our working
mentality are stores of wonderful mental energy and power –
faculties lying dormant – power lying latent – awaiting the magic
command of the Will in order to awaken into activity and outward
expression. We are far greater beings than we have realized – we
are giants of power, if we did but know it. Many of us are like young
elephants that allow themselves to be mastered by weak men, and put
through their paces, little dreaming of the mighty strength and power
concealed within their organisms. Those of you who have read our
little manual entitled "The Inner Consciousness" will
recall what we said therein regarding the regions above and below the
plane of the ordinary outer consciousness. And on those hidden planes
of the mind, are untold possibilities – the raw materials for
mighty mental tasks and achievement – the storage batteries of
wonderful accomplishment. The trouble with us is that we do not
realize the existence of these faculties. We think that we are merely
what we manifest in our ordinary dogtrot gait. Another problem is
that we have not had the incentive to take action – we have lacked
the interest to do great things – we haven’t wanted to hard
enough. This "want-to-hard-enough" is the great inciting
power in life. Desire is the fire which rouses up the steam of Will.
Without Incentive – and that means Desire – we accomplish
nothing. Given the great, earnest, burning ardent Desire as an
animating force – the great incentive to take action, and we are
able to get up this mental "second-wind" – yes, third,
fourth, and fifth winds – tapping one plane of inward power after
another, until we work mental miracles.
We wonder at the achievements of the
great men in all walks of life, and we are apt to excuse ourselves by
the sad remark that these people seem to "have it in them,"
while we have not. Nonsense, we all have it in us to do things a
hundred times greater than we are doing. The trouble is not in
greater than we are doing. The trouble is not in the lack of power
and mental material, but in the Desire and Interest, and Incentive to
arouse into activity those wonderful storehouses of dynamic power
within our mentality – we fail to call into our disposal, and which
is like all other natural powers and forces eager and anxious to be
manifested and expressed. Yes, that’s what we said "anxious
and eager," for all natural forces, penned up and in a static
condition seem to be bursting with desire to manifest and express
into outer dynamic activity. This seems to be a law of life and
nature. Nature and all in it seems to be eager for active expression.
Have you not been surprised at yourselves at times, when under some
slightly higher pressure and incentive Something Within you seemed to
break its bounds and fairly carry you off of your feet in its rush
into active work? Have you not accomplished tasks under the s tress
of a sudden urgent need, that you would have deemed impossible in
cold-blood. Have you not carried all before you when you "warmed-up"
to the task, whereas your ordinary self would have stood around doing
nothing under ordinary circumstances.
Earnestness and Enthusiasm are two
great factors in bringing into operation these latent forces, and
dormant powers of the mentality. But one need not stand by and wait
until you work yourself into a fit of fervor before the energies
spring into action. You can by a careful training of the Will – or
rather, by a carefully training of yourself use you Will – manage
to get hold of the mental throttle, so that you may pull it down and
turn on a full head of steam whenever necessary. And when you have
once mastered this, you will find that you are not any more tired
when running under full pressure, than when you are crawling along -
this being one of the Secrets of Success.
To many a person, the term "The
Will," means merely a firm, steadfastness of mind, akin to
Determination and Fixity of Purpose. To others it means something
like Desire. To others, it means "the power of choice,"
etc. But to occultists, the Will is something far more than these
things – it means a Vital Power – an Acting Force of the Mind –
capable of dominating and ruling the other mental faculties as well
as projecting itself beyond the mental organs of the individual and
affecting others coming within its field of influence. And it is in
this sense that we use the word "Will" in this lesson.
We have no desire to take the reader
into the dim realms of metaphysics, or even into the lighter but
still arduous paths of scientific psychology, but we must acquaint
him with the fact of the existence of this thing that we call Will
Power, and its relation to the "I." Of all the mental
faculties or powers, that of the Will is the closest to the "I"
or Ego of the person. It is the Sword of Power clasped in the hand of
the Ego. One may divorce himself in thought from the other mental
faculties and states, but when he thinks of the "I" he is
bound to think of it as possessing that power which we call Will. The
Will is a primal, original power of the "I" which is always
with it until the end. It is the force with which he rules (or should
rule) his mental and physical kingdom – the power of which his
Individuality manifests itself upon the outside world.
Desire is the great motive power
inciting the Will to action in life. As we have shown you the action
of Will without the motive power of Desire is unthinkable, and
therefore it follows that the culture and right direction of Desire
carries with it the channel of expression and manifestation of the
Will. You cultivate certain Desires, in order that the Will may flow
out along these channels. By cultivating the Desire along certain
lines, you are making channels along which the Will may flow in its
rush toward expression and manifestation. So be sure to map out your
Desire channels clearly by making the proper Mental Images of what
you want – be sure and make the Desire channels deep and clear-cut
by the force of repeated attention and autosuggestion.
History is filled with examples of men
who have developed the use of the Will. We say "developed the
use" rather than "developed Will," for man does not
develop his Will – his Will is always there ready for use – a man
develops his ability to use the Will – perfects himself in its use.
We have frequently used the following illustration, and have not been
able to improve upon it: Man is like a trolley car, with the upraised
trolley-pole of his mind reaching out to the live wire of Will. Along
that wire is flowing the current of Will Power, which it "taps"
and draws down into his mind, and by which he is able to move, and
act and manifest power. But the power is always in the Wire, and his
"developing" consists in the ability to raise the pole to
the Wire, and thus "tap into" its energy. If you will carry
this idea in your mind, you will be able to apply this truth more
easily in your everyday life.
A great promoter of the steel-pen, and
electroplating industries, possesses this quality to a marked degree.
It has been said of him that: "He had, to begin with, a strong,
powerful, almost irresistible Will; and whoever and whatever he
opposed, he surely conquered in the end." Buxton said: "The
longer I live, the more certain I am that the great difference
between men, between the feeble and the powerful, the great and the
insignificant, is Energy – Invincible Determination – a purpose
once fixed, and the Victory or Death. That quality will do anything
that can be done in this world – and no talents, no circumstances,
no opportunities, will make a two-legged creature a man without it.
In this last quotation and the one preceding it, the idea of
Persistence and Determination is identified closely with that of
Will. And they are closely identified, the idea being that the Will
should be held close, fast, and steadily against the task to be
accomplished, just as the steel chisel is held firmly up against the
object on the lathe, until its work is accomplished. It is not the
mere Determination or Persistency that does the work – these would
be of no avail unless the Will were there to do the cutting and
shaping. But then again, there is a double-aspect of Will here –
the Will in one phase does the work, while in another it forces the
mind to hold it up against the task. So, in a sense the Will is the
power back of Determination and persistency, as well as the force
doing the work – the cutting-edge of the chisel, as well as the
firm hand that holds it to its work.
Simpson has said: "A passionate
Desire, and an unwearied Will can perform impossibilities, or what
would seem to be such, to the cold and feeble." Disraeli said:
"I have brought myself by long meditation to the conviction that
a human being with a settled purpose must accomplish it, and that
nothing can resist a Will which will stake even existence upon its
fulfillment." Foster says: "It is wonderful how even the
casualties of life seem to bow to a spirit that will not bow to them,
and yield to sub-serve a design which they may, in their first
apparent tendency, threaten to frustrate. When a firm, decisive
spirit is recognized, it is curious to see how the space clears
around a man and leaves him room and freedom." Mitchell has
said:"Resolve is what makes a man manifest; not puny resolve;
not crude determination; not errant purpose – but that strong and
indefatigable Will which treads down difficulties and danger, as a
boy treads down the heaving frost lands of winter, which kindles his
eye and brain with a proud pulse-beat toward the unattainable. Will
makes men giants. "
So, raise that mental trolley-pole, and
touch the live wire of Will.
Soul-Force
You often have heard the word
"Enthusiasm" used – have used it often yourself. But have
you ever thought of what the word really means – from what source
it originated – what is its essential spirit? Few have. The word
"Enthusiasm" is derived from the Greek term meaning "to
be inspired; to be possessed by the gods, etc.," the term having
been originally used to designate the mental state of an inspired
person who seems to be under the influence of a higher power. The
term originally meant, "Inspired by a superhuman or divine
power; ecstasy; etc." It is now used, according to Webster, in
the sense of: "Enkindled and kindling fervor of soul; ardent and
imaginative zeal or interest; lively manifestation of joy or zeal;
etc." The word has acquired a secondary, and unfavorable meaning
in the sense of "visionary zeal; imaginative fervor; etc. ";
but its real and primary meaning is that ardent, lively zeal and
interest in a inner forces of one’s nature. Real enthusiasm means a
powerful mental state exerted in favor of, or against, some idea.
A person filled with Enthusiasm seems
indeed to be inspired by some power or being higher than himself –
he taps on to a source of power of which he is not ordinarily
conscious. And the result is that he becomes as a great magnet
radiating attractive force in all directions and influencing those
within his field of influence. For Enthusiasm is contagious and when
really experienced by the individual renders him a source of
inductive power, and a center of mental influence. But the power with
which he is filled does not come from an outside source – it comes
from certain inner regions of his mind or soul – from his Inner
Consciousness. Those who have read our little manual entitled "Inner
Consciousness" will readily understand from what part of the
mentality such power is derived. Enthusiasm is really "soul
power," and when genuine is so recognized and felt by those
coming within its field of influence.
Without a certain amount of Enthusiasm
no one ever has attained Success, and never will do so. There is no
power in personal intercourse that can be compared to Enthusiasm of
the right sort. It comprises Earnestness, Concentration, and Power,
and there are a very few people that cannot be influenced in some
degree by its manifestation by another. Few people realize the actual
value of Enthusiasm. Many have succeeded by reason of its possession,
and many have failed by reason of its lack. Enthusiasm is the steam
that drives our mental machinery, and which indirectly thus
accomplishes the great things in life. You cannot accomplish tasks
properly yourself unless you manifest a degree of interest in them,
and what is Enthusiasm but Interest plus Inspiration – Inspired
Interest, that’s what Enthusiasm is. By the power of Enthusiasm the
great things of life are brought to expression and accomplishment.
Enthusiasm is not a thing, which some
possess and others lack. All persons have it potentially, but only a
few are able to express it. The majority is afraid to let themselves
"feel" a thing, and then to let the "feeling"
express itself in powerful action like the steam in an engine. The
majority of persons do not know how to get up the steam of
Enthusiasm. They fail to keep the fires of Interest and Desire
kindled under their mental boiler, and the consequence is they fail
to get up the steam of Enthusiasm. Enthusiasm may be developed, by
cultivating interest and love of your task. Interest, confidence, and
desire arouse Enthusiasm, and it remains for you to either
concentrate it so that its effect will be directed strait toward the
object, person or thing that you wish to move, or else allow it to
dissipate itself in the air without result. Like steam, Enthusiasm
may be dissipated or used – by concentrated direction it produces
results; and by foolish waste and dissipation it fails to do so. The
more interest you take in a thing, the greater does your confidence
and desire grow – and from these arise the steam of Enthusiasm. So
remember always that Interest is the mother of Enthusiasm.
The enthusiastic man naturally tends
toward the optimistic frame of mind, and by doing so he diffuses an
atmosphere of confident, cheerful expectation around him which tends
to inspire confidence in others, and which aids him in his endeavors.
He surrounds himself with a mental aura of Success – he vibrates
Success – and those into whose presence he comes, unconsciously
take on his vibrations. Enthusiasm is very contagious, and one filled
with the right quality, kind and degree of it unconsciously
communicates his interest, earnestness and expectations to others.
Enthusiasm plays an important part in that which is called Personal
Magnetism. It is a live, warm, vital mental quality, and it quickens
the pulse of the one using it, and those who are affected by it. It
is different from the cold-blooded indifference that one meets with
so often in business, and which causes many a sale to be lost, and
many a good thing to be "turned down."
The man who lacks Enthusiasm is robbed
of more than half his force of Personal Influence. No matter how good
his arguments may be – no matter how meritorious his proposition
may be – unless he possess the warm vital quality of Enthusiasm,
his efforts are largely wasted, and his result impaired. Think over
the salesman who have approached you and remember how some of them
produced the chilling effect of a damp cellar upon you, while others
caused you to sit up and take notice in spite of yourself by reason
of their earnest interest and enthusiasm. Analyze the impression
produced upon you by the different people with whom you have come in
contact, and then see how great an influence Enthusiasm exerts. And
then remember the effect it produces upon yourself, when you feel it.
Enthusiasm is Mental Steam – remember that.
A few days ago there was erected a
tablet, in one of the great colleges of the land, as a memorial to a
former student in its halls. This young man saved the lives of
seventeen people during a great storm on the lake. He swam out after
them, one by one, and brought them all in alive. He fainted away from
exhaustion, and when he recovered consciousness, his first words
were, "Boys, did I do my Best?"
The words of this young man express the
great question that should urge every true seeker after Success to so
live and act that he may be able to answer it in the affirmative. It
is not so much a question of"did I do so much," or "did
I do as much as some one else?" as it is matter of "DID I
DO MY BEST?"
The man who does his best is never a
failure. He is always a success, and if the best should be but a poor
pretty thing, still the world will place the laurel wreath of victory
upon his brow when he accomplishes it. The one who does his best is
never a "quitter," or a "shirker" – he stays
right on his job until he has bestowed upon it the very best that
there is in him to give at that particular time. Such a man can never
be a failure.
The man who does his best is never
heard asking the pessimistic question, "What’s the Use? "He
doesn’t care a whole lot about that part of it – his mind is
fixed upon the idea that he is "on his job," and is not
going to be satisfied with anything less than his Best. And when one
really is able to answer the great question with an honest, "Yes,
I did my Best," then verily, he will be able to answer the
"What’s the Use" question properly – it is "of
use" to have brought out the Best work in oneself, if for no
other reason than because it is a Man Making process – a developer
of the Self.
This infernal "What’s the Use"
question seems to have been invented by some pessimistic imp of
darkness to use in discouraging people making desperate struggles or
leading forlorn hopes. It has brought down many a man into the Mire
of Despondency and Failure. Chase it out of you mind whenever it
appears, and replace it with the question, "Am I doing my Best,"
knowing that an affirmative answer settles the other question also.
Anything is "Of Use" if it is in the right spirit, in a
worthy cause, and because one’s own manhood demands it. Yes, even
if one goes down to death in the doing of it still it is a Success.
Listen to this story, told in a recent magazine article:It is a story
of a sailor on the wreck of a German kerosene steamer, which dashed
against the rocks of the Newfoundland coast in the early part of
1901. She had taken fire, and had been run ashore on a submerged reef
about an eighth of a mile from the coast. The coastline itself was a
wall, some four hundred feet high. When morning dawned, the fisherman
on shore saw that her boats were all gone, and all the crew and
officers had apparently been lost – all except three men. Two of
these three men were standing on the bridge – the third was aloft,
lashed to the rigging. Later, the watchers saw a tremendous wave
strike the vessel, sweeping away the bridge and the two men who had
been standing on it. Several hours later they saw the man in the
rigging unlash him and beat his arms against his body vigorously,
evidently to restore the circulation, which had been almost stopped
by the lashing and the extreme cold. The man then took off his coat,
waved it to the fishermen on top of the cliff and then plunged into
the sea. The first thought was that he had given up the fight and
committed suicide – but he as not that kind of a man. He struck out
for shore, and reaching it made three separate attempts to secure a
foothold on the rocks at the bottom of the cliff. But, he failed –
three times was he swept away by the surf, and finally, seeing the
futility of his efforts, he swam away again, toward the ship. As the
narrator well says:"At that crisis in the struggle ninety-nine
men out of a hundred would have given and allowed themselves to
drown; but this man was not a quitter. "
After a fierce battle with the waves
the man gained the ship, and after a desperate struggle managed to
board her. He climbed again into the rigging and waved his hand to
the fishermen high up on the cliff, who were unable to help him. He
lashed himself fast, and until dark could be seen signaling the
fishermen above, to show them that he was still alive and game. When
the following morning broke the fishermen saw that his head had
fallen to his breast - he was motionless – frozen during the night.
He was dead – his brave soul had gone forth to meet its maker, and
who can doubt that when that man confronted his Maker his eyes were
looking firmly and bravely toward the Presence, and not bowed down in
shame or fear. Such a man was indeed worthy to face his Maker,
unabashed and unashamed. As the writer, George Kennan, has said in
words that make one thrill:"That man died as a man in adverse
circumstances ought to die, fighting to the last. You may call it
foolish, and say that he might better have ended his sufferings by
allowing himself to drown when he found that he could not make a
landing at the base of the cliff; but deep down in your hearts you
pay secret homage to his courage, his endurance, and his indomitable
will. He was defeated at last, but so long as he had consciousness
neither fire nor cold not tempest could break down his manhood. "
The Caucasians have a favorite proverb
that says:"Heroism is endurance for one moment more. "And
that one moment more tells the difference between the "quitter"
and the man who has "done his Best. "No one is dead until
his heart has ceased beating – and no one has failed so long as
there is one more bit of fight in him. And that "one moment
more" often is the moment in which the tide turns – the moment
when the enemy relaxes his hold and drops back beaten.
The Power of
Desire
What is Desire? Let us see! Webster
tells us that it is:"The natural longing to possess any seeming
good; eager wish to obtain or enjoy," or in its abnormal or
degenerate sense:"excessive or morbid longing; lust; appetite. "
"Desire" is a much-abused term – the public mind has
largely identified it with its abnormal or degenerate phase, just
mentioned, ignoring its original and true sense. Many use the word in
the sense of an unworthy longing or craving, instead of in the true
sense of "aspiration," "worthy craving and longing,"
etc. To call Desire "aspiration" renders it none the less
Desire. To apply to it the term "laudable aim and ambition"
does not take away from it is character of Desire. There is no sense
in endeavoring to escape the fact that Desire is the natural and
universal impulse toward action, be the action or good or bad.
Without Desire the Will does not spring into action, and nothing is
accomplished. Even the highest attainments and aims of the race are
possible only when the steam of Will is aroused by the flame and heat
of Desire.
Some of the occult teachings are filled
with instructions to "kill out desire," and the student is
warned to beware of it even in its most insidious and subtle forms,
even to the extent of "avoiding even the desire to be desireless
– even desire not to desire. Now this is all nonsense, for if
one"wishes," or "wants," or "is inclined,"
or "thinks best to," or "is pleased to" Kill Out
Desire – in any of these cases he is but manifesting a Desire "not
to desire," in spite of his use of other names. What is this
"wishing to; wanting to; feeling like; inclination; being
pleased to;" and all the rest, but just plain, clear,
unadulterated Desire masquerading under some of these names. To
proceed to "kill out desire" without "desiring"
to do so is like trying to lift oneself by pulling on his own
bootstraps. Folly. What is really meant is that the occultist should
proceed to kill out the lower desires that he finds within his
nature, and also to kill out the "attachment" for things.
Regarding this last we would say that all true occultist know that
even the best "things" are not good enough to rule and
master one-nothing is good enough for the soul to allow itself to be
unduly attached to it so that the thing rules the soul instead of the
should mastering the thing. That is what the teachings mean –
avoidance of "attachment. "And in this the occult teachers
are clearly right. Desire is a frightful master – like fire it
sweeps away the supports of the soul, leaving nothing but smoldering
ashes. But, also like Fire Desire is a splendid servant and by its
harnessed power we are able to generate the steam of the Will and
Activity, and to accomplish much in the world. Without proper Desire
the world would be without activity. So do not make the mistake of
using Desire any more than you would refuse to use fire – but in
both cases keep the mastery in your own hands, and avoid allowing the
control to pass from you to Desire.
Desire is the motivating force that
runs the world; as little as we care to admit it in many cases. Look
around you and see the effects of Desire in every human act, good or
bad. As a writer has said:"Every deed that we do, good or bad,
is prompted by Desire. We are charitable because we Desire to relieve
our inner distress at the sight of suffering; or from the Desire of
sympathy; or from the Desire to be respected in this world, or to
secure a comfortable place in the next. One man is kind because he
Desires to be kind – because it gives him satisfaction to be kind;
while another man is cruel from precisely the same kind of motive.
One man does his duty because he Desires to do it – he obtains a
higher satisfaction from duty well done than he would from the
neglecting of it in accordance with some weaker desires. The
religious man is religious because his religious desires are stronger
than his irreligious ones – because he finds a higher satisfaction
in religion than in the pursuits of the worldly-minded. The moral man
is moral because his moral desires are stronger than his immoral ones
– he obtains a greater satisfaction in being moral than in being
the contrary. Everything we do is prompted by Desire in some shape or
form – high or low. Man cannot be Desireless and act in any way.
Desire is the motivating power behind all actions – it is a natural
law of life. Everything from the atom to the monad; from the monad to
the insect; from the insect to man; from man to Nature, acts and does
things by reason of the power and force of Desire, the Animating
Motive. "
All the above at the first glance would
seem to make of man a mere machine, subject to the power of any stray
desire that might happen to come into his mind. But this is far from
being so. Man acts not upon EVERY desire, but upon the STRONGEST
Desire, or the Average of his Strongest Desires. This Average of
Desires is that which constitutes his Nature or Character. And here
is where the Mastery of the "I" comes in!Man need not be a
slave or creature of his Desires if he will assert his Mastery. He
may control, regulate, govern and guide his Desires in any directions
that he pleases. Nay, more, he may even CREATE DESIRES by an action
of his Will, as we shall see presently. By a knowledge of
psychological laws he may neutralize unfavorable Desires, and grow
and develop – yes, practically Create New Desires in their place –
all by the power of his Will, aided by the light of his Reason and
Judgment. Man is the Master of his Mind.
"Yes," but some close
reasoning critic may object; "yes, that is true enough, but even
in that case is not Desire the ruling motive – must not one Desire
create these new Desires before he can do so – is not Desire always
precedent to action? "Very close reasoning this, good friends,
but all advanced occultists know that there is a point in which the
Principle of Desire shades and merges into companion Principle, Will,
and that a close reasoner and mental analyst may imagine a mental
state in which one may be almost said to manifest a WILL to Will,
rather than to merely Desire to Will. This state must be experienced
before it can be understood – words cannot express it.
We have stated that it was in the power
of man to Create Desire – not only to be its master when created,
but also to actually Create it by bringing it into being. And the
statement is absolutely true, and is verified and proven by the most
recent experiments and discoveries of modern psychology. Instead of
man being a creature of Desire – and this indeed he is in many
cases – he may become Master of Desire and even a Creator of it. By
knowledge and Will he may reverse the ordinary order of things and,
displacing the intruder from the throne, he may seat himself there in
his rightful place, and then bid the late occupant do his will and
obey his bidding. But the best way for the new occupant of the throne
to bring about a reorganized court is to dismiss the old
objectionable creatures of his mind and create new ones in their
places. And here is how it may be done: In the first place, one must
think carefully over the tasks that he wishes to accomplish, then,
using his judgment carefully, judicially and impartially –
impersonally so far as is possible – he must take mental stock of
himself and see in what points he is deficient, so far as the
successful accomplishment of the task is concerned. Then let him
analyze the task before him, in detail, separating the matter into as
many clear defined divisions as possible, so that he may be able to
see the Thing as It Is, in detail as well as in its entirety. Then
let him take a similar inventory of the things, which seem necessary
of the accomplishment of the task – not the details that will arise
only as the work progresses, day by day – but the general things,
which must be done in order that the task is brought to a successful
conclusion. Then having taken stock of the task, the nature of the
undertaking, and one’s own qualifications and shortcomings – then
Begin to Create Desire, according to the following plan: The first
step in the Creation of Desire is that of the forming of a clear,
vital Mental Image of the qualities, things and details of the
undertaking, as well as of the Completed Whole. By a Mental Image we
mean a clear-cut, distinct mental picture in the Imagination of the
things just names. Now, do not turn away with an impatient motion at
the mention of the word Imagination. That is another word that you
have only a mistaken idea of. Imagination means far more than the
mere idle, fanciful use of that part of the mind that is believed by
people to be "all there is to it. "It isn’t all, by a
long way – in fact, the fanciful part may be said to be merely a
shadow of the real Imaginative effort. Imagination is a real thing –
it is a faculty of the mind by which it creates a matrix, mold, or
pattern of things, which the trained Will and Desire afterward,
materializes into objective reality. There has been nothing created
by the hands and mind of man which did not have its first origin in
the Imagination of some one. Imagination is the first step in
Creation – whether of worlds or trifles. The mental pattern must
always precede the material form. And so it is in the Creation of
Desire. Before you can Create a Desire you must have a clear Mental
Image of what you need to Desire.
You will find that this task of
creating a Mental Image is a little harder than you had expected at
the start. You will find it hard to form even a faint mental picture
of that which you need. But be not discouraged, and persevere, for in
this, as everything else. Practice makes perfect. Each time you try
to form the Mental Image it will appear a little clearer and more
distinct, and the details will come into a little more prominence. Do
not tire yourself at first, but lay aside the task until later in the
day, or tomorrow. But practice and persevere and you need, just as
clearly as a memory picture of something you have already seen. We
shall have more to say on this subject of Mental Imagery and
Imagination in subsequent lessons.
Then, after having acquired the clear
Mental Image of the things you wish to Desire, and thus attain,
cultivate the focusing of the Attention upon these things. The word
attention is derived from the Latin word "Attendere,"
meaning "to stretch forth," the original idea being that in
Attention the mind was "stretched forth," or "extended"
toward the object of attention, and this is the correct idea for that
is the way the mind operates in the matter. Keep the ideas before
your attention as much as possible, so that the mind may take a firm
grasp upon them, and make them a part of itself – by doing this you
firmly impress the ideas upon the wax tablet of the mind.
Thus having fixed the idea clearly in
your mind, by means of the Imagination and Attention, until as we
have said, it becomes a fixture there, begin to cultivate an ardent
DESIRE, LONGING, CRAVING DEMAND for the materialization of the
things. Demand that you grow the qualities necessary for the task –
demand that your mental pictures materialize – Demand that the
details be manifested as well as the Whole, making allowance for the
"something better" which will surely arise to take the
place of the original details, as you proceed – the Inner
Consciousness will attend to these things for you.
Then Desire firmly, confident, and
earnestly. Be not half-hearted in your demands and desires – claim
and demand the WHOLE THING, and feel confident that it will work out
into material objectivity and reality. Think of it, dream of it, and
always LONG for it – you must learn to want it the worst way –
learn to "want it hard enough. "You can attain and obtain
many things by "wanting them hard enough" – the trouble
is with most of us that we do not want things hard enough – we
mistake vague cravings and wished for earnest, longing, demanding
Desire and Want. Get to Desire and Demand the Thing just as you
demand and Desire your daily meals. That is "wanting it the
worst way. "This is merely a hint – surely you can supply the
rest, if you are in earnest, and "want to hard enough. "
The Law of
Attraction
There is in Nature a great Law – the
Law of Attraction – by the operations of which all things – from
atoms to men – are attracted toward each other in the degree of the
common affinity of common use. The reverse of this law – which is
merely another manifestation of its power – is what is called
Repulsion, which is but the other pole of Attraction, and by the
operations of which things tend to repel each other in the degree
that they are unlike, opposing, and of no use to each other. The Law
of Attraction is Universal, on all the planes of life, from the
physical to the spiritual. Its operations are uniform and constant,
and we may take the phenomena of one plane and thereby study the
phenomena of another plane, for the same rule applies in each case –
the same Law is in operation in the same way.
Beginning with the tiny corpuscles,
electrons, or ions, of which the atoms are formed, we find manifested
the Law of Attraction – certain electrons attract each other, and
repel others still, thereby causing to spring into existing groups,
combinations and colonies of electrons which being in agreement and
harmony manifest and constitute what are called atoms, which until
recently were supposed to be the primal form of matter. Passing on
the atoms themselves, we find many degrees of affinity and attraction
existing between them which cause them to combine and form into
molecules of which all masses of matter consists. For instance, every
drop of water is composed of countless molecules of water. And each
molecule is composed of two atoms of Hydrogen and one atom of Oxygen
– the combination always being the same in every molecule of water.
Now, why these atoms combine in just this way – the same invariable
grouping and proportion? Not by chance, surely, for there is no such
thing in Nature – there is a natural law back of every phenomenon.
And in this case it is the Law of Attraction manifesting in the case
of these atoms. And it is so in all chemical combinations – it is
called Chemical Affinity. Sometimes an attached atom will come in
contact with, or in proximity to, another atom, and then bang goes
the explosion of the molecule as the atom flies away from its
partners and into the arms of the other atom for which it has a
greater affinity. There are marriages and divorces in the world of
atoms, you will notice. And in the cases of the molecules, it is
found that certain molecules are attracted to others of the same
kind, under what is called Cohesion, and thus masses of matter are
composed. A piece of gold, silver, tin, glass, or other form of
matter is composed of countless molecules held together tightly by
Cohesion – and this Cohesion is merely another form of the Law of
Attraction – the same that draws all things together. And,
underlying the Law of Attraction is to be found our old Principle of
Desire and Will. You may shrug your shoulders at this mention of
desire and Will in connection with electrons, atoms, molecules –
all forms of matter, but just wait a bit and see what the leading
scientific authorities have to say on the subject.
Prof. Hakel, one of the world’s
greatest scientists – a materialist who would sneer at the
teachings of Mental Science – even this man, naturally prejudiced
against mentalist theories, finds himself compelled to say:"The
idea of chemical affinity consists in the fact that the various
chemical elements perceive the qualitative differences in other
elements – experience pleasure of revulsion at contact with them,
and execute specific movements on this ground. "He also
positively and distinctly states that in the atoms there must be
something corresponding to Desire for contact and association with
other atoms, and Will to enable the atom to respond to the Desire Law
is constant throughout Nature, from atom to man – physical, mental
and spiritual.
But what has all this to do with the
Secret of Success you may ask? Simply, that the Law of Attraction is
an important part in the Secret of Success, inasmuch as it tends to
bring to us the things, persons and circumstances in accordance with
our earnest Desire, Demand, and Will, just as it brings together the
atoms and other particles of matter. Make yourself an atom of Living
Desire and you will attract to yourself the person, things and
circumstances fitting in with the accomplishment of your Desire. You
will also get into rapport with those who are working along the same
lines of thought, and will be attracted them and they to you, and you
will be brought into relations with persons, things and environments
likely to work out the problem of your Desires – you will get "next
to" the right persons and things - all by the operation of this
great natural Law of Attraction. No Necromancy or Magic about it at
all – nothing supernatural or mysterious – just the operations of
a great Natural Law.
You can do little by yourself in Life,
be you ever so strong and able. Life is a complex thing, and
individuals are interdependent upon each other for the doings of
things. One Individual, segregated from all the other Individuals,
could accomplish little or nothing along the lines of outer activity.
He must form combinations, arrangements, harmonies and agreements
with others, and in accordance with environments and things, that is,
he must create and use the proper environments and things, and draw
to himself others with whom he must form combinations, in order to do
things. And these persons, things and environments come to him –
and he to them – by reason of this great Law of Attraction. And the
way he sets into operation this great Law of Attraction is by the
operation of his Desire, and along the lines of Mental Imagery. Do
you see the connection now? So be careful to form, cultivate and
manifest the right Desires – hold to them firmly, strongly and
constantly, and you will set into operation this great Law, which
forms an important part of the Secret of Success.
Desire-Force is the motive power
leading the activities of Life. It is the basic vital power, which
animates the minds of living things and urges them forth to action.
Without strong Desire no one accomplishes anything worthy of the name
– and the greater the desire the greater will be the amount of
energy generated and manifested, everything else being equal. That is
to say, that given a dozen men of equal intellect, physical health
and mental activity – equal in everything else except Desire, in
short, the ones in whom the greatest Desire resides and is manifested
will outstrip the others in attainment – and of these winners the
one in who Desire burns like an unquenchable flame will be the one
who will Master the others by the force of his primitive elementary
power.
Not only does Desire give to the man
that inward motive which leads to the enfoldment of the power within
himself, but it does more than this; it causes to radiate from him
the finer and more subtle mental and vital forces of his nature,
which, flowing forth in all directions like the magnetic waves from
the magnet, or the electric waves from the dynamo, influencing all
who come within the field of force. Desire-Force is a real, active,
effective force of Nature, and serves to attract, draw and bring to a
center that which is in line with the nature of the Desire. The much
talked of Law of Attraction, of which so much is heard in Mental
Science and the New Thought, depends largely upon the force and power
of Desire. Desire-Force is at the center of the Law of Attraction.
There is a tendency in Nature to attract and draw to the center of a
Desire the things, which are needed to fulfill that Desire. One’s
"own will come to him" by reason of his natural force,
which lies behind and underneath the entire phenomena of Mental
Influence. This being so, does it not become at once apparent why one
who wishes to accomplish anything should be sure to create a strong
Desire for it, and at the same time be sure to acquire the art of
Visualization so as to form a clear Mental Picture of the thing
Desired – a clear mold in which the materialized reality may
manifest?
Have you ever come in contact with any
of the great men of modern business life? If you have seen these
people in action, you will have become conscious of a subtle,
mysterious something about them – a something that you could
actually feel – a something that seemed to draw you to fit in to
their schemes, planes, and desires almost by an irresistible force.
These people are all people of the strongest kind of Desire – their
Desire–Force manifests strongly and affects those with whom they
come in contact. Not only this, but their Desire-Force flows from
them in great waves, which occultists inform us soon manifests a
circular, or whirlpool-like motion, swing around and around the
center of the Desire – these men become actual cyclones of Desire
into which nearly everything that comes within its sweep is affected
and swept into the vortex. Have we not evidences of this in the cases
of all the great leaders of men – can we not see the operation of
that mighty law of attraction which brings to them their own? We are
apt to call this Will Power, and so it is in a way, back and under
the Will in such cases is to be found the ardent, burning Desire that
is the motive force of the attractive power.
This Desire-Force is a primitive,
elemental thing. It is found in the animal kingdom, and among the
lower races of men, perhaps more clearly than among the higher types
of men, but only because in such instances it is seen stripped of the
covering, sheaths, disguises and masks that surround the more
civilized forms and planes of life. But remember this well, the same
principle is manifested under and beneath the polished veneer of
civilized life – the Desire-Force of the cultured leader of men is
as elemental as that animating the fierce and shaggy caveman or the
wild Berserker who, naked and half-mad, rushed upon overwhelming
hordes of his enemy, brushing them aside like flies – that is, if
you will but look beneath the polished surface. In the old wild days
Desire manifested its force on the physical plane – now it
manifests on the Mental Plane – that is the only difference, the
Force is the same in both cases.
While we write, there has just been
produced on stage a new play that illustrates this principle. The
heroine, the daughter of an old New York family of high social
standing and wealth, has a dream of her life in a former incarnation,
in which she sees herself torn from the arms of her cave-dweller
father by the mighty arms of a fierce savage chief, whose desire is
manifested through the physical. She awakens from her dream, and to
her horror soon discovers the face of her dream-captor on a man who
comes into her father’s life in New York. This man comes from the
West, forceful, resourceful and desirous, beating down all before him
in the game of finance. As of old, he places his foot not on the neck
of his enemies – but on the mental-plane, this time, instead of the
physical. The same old Desire for power is strong within him – the
same old masterfulness manifests itself. This man says:"I have
never quit; I have never been afraid. "The same old Desire then
flamed up in the savage now manifests in the Master of Wall Street,
and between the force of its Attraction and the coupled and allied
force of his Will, he repeats the performances of his previous
incarnation – but on the plane of mental forces and achievement
this time – mind, not muscle, being the instrument through which
the Desire manifests.
We give the above example merely as an
illustration of the fact that Desire is the motivating force that
moves the Will into action, and which cause the varied activity of
life, men and things. Desire-Force is a real power in life, and
influences not only tracts, influences and compels other persons and
things to swing in toward the center of the Desire sending forth the
currents. In the Secret of Success, Desire plays a prominent part.
Without a Desire for Success, there is no Success, none. The Law of
Attraction is set into motion by Desire. The majority of the
principles advanced in this book have been in the nature of Positive
injunctions – that is, you have been urged to do certain things
rather than to not do the opposite or contrary. But here we come to a
place in which the advice must be given along the negative lines –
we must urge you not to do a certain thing. We allude to that great
poison of the mind and Will known as Fear. We do not allude to
physical fear – important though physical courage may be, and as
regrettable as physical cowardice may be considered, still it is not
a part of the purpose of this book to preach against the latter and
advise a cultivation of the former quality – you will find much of
that elsewhere. Our purpose here is to combat that subtle, insidious
enemy of true Self-Expression which appears in the shape and guise of
mental fear, forebodings which may be considered as Negative Thought
just as the other principles mentioned in this work may be considered
as Positive Thought.
Fear thoughts is that condition of the
mind in which everything is seen through blue glasses – in which
everything seems to bring a sense of the futility of endeavor – the
"I Can’t" principle of mentality, as contrasted with the
"I Can and I Will" mental attitude. It is the noxious weed
in the mental garden, which tends to kill the valuable plants to be
found therein. It is the fly in the ointment – the spider in the
cup of the Wine of Life. So far as we know the first person to use
the word "Fear-Thought" – which has now passed into
common use – was Horace Fletcher, the well-known writer, who coined
it to supplant the use of the word "Worry" in a certain
sense. He had pointed out that Anger and Worry were the two great
hindrances to a well-balanced, advanced and progressive mentality,
but many misunderstood him and urged that to abolish Worry meant to
cease taking any consideration of the morrow – a lack of common
prudence and forethought. And so Fletcher coined the word
"Fear-Thought" to express a phase of his idea of
"Forethought without Worry," and he entitled his second
book on the subject, "Happiness, as found in Forethought minus
Fear-Thought," a very happy expression of a very happy idea.
Fletcher also was the first to advance the idea that Fear was not a
thing-in-itself, but merely an expression of Fear-Thought – a
manifestation of the state of mind known as Fear-Thought. He and
others who have written on the subject, have taught that Fear might
be abolished by the practice of abolishing Fear-Thought from the mind
– by driving it out of the mental chamber – and the best teachers
have taught that the best way to drive out Fear (or any other
undesirable mental state) was by cultivating the thought of the
opposite quality of mind by compelling the mind to dwell upon the
mental picture of the desirable quality, and by the appropriate
auto-suggestions. The illustration has often been stated that the way
to drive darkness from a room is not to shovel it out, but to throw
open the shutters and let the sunlight stream in, and that is the
best way to neutralize Fear-Thought.
The mental process has aptly been
spoken of as "vibrations," a figure that has a full warrant
in modern science. Then, by raising the vibration to the Positive
pitch, the negative vibrations may be counteracted. By cultivating
the qualities recommended in the other lessons of this book.
Fear-Thought may be neutralized. The poison of Fear-Thought is
insidious and subtle, but it slowly creeps through the veins until it
paralyzes all useful efforts and action, until the heart and brain
are affected and find it difficult to throw it off. Fear-Thought is
at the bottom of the majority of failures and "going down"
in life. As long as a man keeps his nerve and confidence in himself,
he is able to rise to his feet after each stumble, and face the enemy
resolutely – but let him feel the effects of Fear-Thought to such
an extent that he cannot throw it off and he will fail to rise and
will perish miserable. "There is nothing to fear except Fear,"
has well been said.
We have spoken elsewhere about the Law
of Attraction, which operates in the direction of attracting to us,
that which we Desire. But there is a reverse side to this – it is a
poor rule that will not work both ways. Fear will set into motion the
Law of Attraction just as well as Desire. Just as Desire draws to one
the things he pictures in his mind as the Desired Thing, so will Fear
draw to him the thing pictured in his mind as the Thing Feared. "The
thing that I feared hath befallen me. "And the reason is very
simple, and the apparent contradiction vanishes when we examine the
matter. What is the pattern upon which the Law of Attraction builds
under the force of Desire? The Mental Image, of course. And so it is
in the case of Fear – the person carries about the Mental Image or
haunting picture of the Feared Thing, and the Law of Attraction
brings it to him just as it brings the Desired Thing. Did you ever
stop to thing that Fear was the negative pole of Desire? The same
laws work in both cases.
So avoid Fear-Thought as you would the
poisonous draught that you know would cause your blood to become
black and thick, and your breathing labored and difficult. It is a
vile thing, and you should not rest content until you have expelled
it from your mental system. You can get rid of it by Desire and Will,
coupled with the holding of the Mental Image of Fearlessness. Drive
it up by cultivating its opposite. Change your polarity. Raise your
mental vibrations. Someone has said, "There is no Devil but
Fear" – then send that Devil back to the place where he
properly belongs, for if you entertain him hospitably he will make
your heaven a hell in order that he may feel at home. Use the mental
Big Stick on him.
Personal
Magnetism
We hear much about Personal Magnetism
these days. It is a peculiar quality of the mental being of the
individual that serves to bring other persons into a mood or state of
mind sympathetic with that of the magnetic person. Some men have this
quality developed to a wonderful extent, and are able to bring about
a harmonious agreement on the part of other persons in a short time,
while others are almost entirely deficient in this respect and their
very presence tends to arouse antagonism in the minds of others. The
majority of people accept the idea of Personal Magnetism without
question, but few will agree upon any theory attempting to account
for it. Those who have studied the matter carefully know that the
whole thing depends upon the mental states of the individual, and
upon his ability to cause others to "catch" his mental
vibrations. This "catching" is caused by what is known as
Mental Induction. Induction, you know, is "that property or
quality, or process by which one body having electrical or magnetic
polarity produces it in another without direct contact. "And
Mental Induction is a manifestation of similar phenomena on the
mental plane. People’s mental states are "catching" or
"contagious," and if one infuses enough life and enthusiasm
into his mental states they will affect the minds of persons with
whom they come in contact. We have explained this matter in detail in
the little book of this series entitled, "Mental Influence. "
It seems to us that the prime factor in
successful Mental Induction, or manifestations of Personal Magnetism,
is Enthusiasm. In another lesson in this book we have told you about
Enthusiasm, and when you think of Personal Magnetism, it will be well
for you to read what we have said about Enthusiasm also. Enthusiasm
gives Earnestness to the person, and there is no mental state so
effective as Earnestness. Earnestness makes itself felt strongly, and
will often make a person give you attention in spite of him self.
Walter D. Moody, a well-known writer on the subject of Salesmanship,
says, truthfully, "It will be found that all men possessed of
personal magnetism are very much in earnest. Their intense
earnestness is magnetic. "And nearly every student of the
subject has noted this fact. But the earnestness must be more that a
firm, confident, honest belief in the thing being presented tot eh
attention of the other person. It must be a live, contagious
earnestness, which can best be described as Enthusiasm –
Enthusiastic Earnestness, that’s the term.
This Enthusiastic Earnestness has much
emotion in it – it appeals to the Emotional side of human nature,
rather that to the Thinking - Reasoning side. And yet an argument
based upon reason and conducted upon logical principles, may be
presented with Enthusiastic Earnestness with much greater effect than
if the appeal to the reason is conducted in a cold, unemotional way.
The average person is so constituted mentally that he thaws out under
a manifestation of live, enthusiastic "feeling," under the
term of Personal Magnetism. The "feeling" side of mentality
is as important as the "thinking" side – and it is far
more common and universal, for the majority of people really think
very little, while everyone "feels. "
A writer in the "early seventies"
of the last century said:"All of us emit a sphere, aura, or
halo, impregnated with the very essence of ourselves; sensitive knows
it; so do our dogs and other pets; so does a hungry lion or tiger;
aye, even flies, snakes and the insects, as we know to our cost. Some
of us are magnetic – others not. Some of us are warm, attractive,
love inspiring and friendship making, while others are cold,
intellectual, thoughtful, reasoning, but not magnetic. Let a learned
man of the latter type address an audience and it will soon tire of
his intellectual discourse, and will manifest symptoms of drowsiness.
He talks at them, but not into them – he makes them think, not
feel, which is most tiresome to the majority of persons, and few
speakers succeed who attempt to merely make people think – they
want to be made to feel. People will pay liberally to be made to feel
or laugh, while they will begrudge a dime for instruction or talk
that will make them think. Pitted against a learned man of the type
mentioned above, let there be a half-educated, but very loving, ripe
and mellow man, with but nine-tenths of the logic and erudition of
the first man, yet such a man carries along his crowd with perfect
ease, and everybody is wide-awake, treasuring up every good thing
that falls from his lips. The reasons are palpable and plain. It is
heart against head; soul against logic; and is bound to win every
time.
If you will notice the man and woman
who are considered the most "magnetic," you will find that
almost invariably they are people who have what is called "soul"
about them – that is, they manifest and induce "feeling,"
or emotion. They manifest traits of character and nature similar to
that manifested by actors and actresses. They throw out a part of
themselves, which seems to affect those coming in contact with them.
Notice a non-magnetic actor, and you will see that although he may be
letter perfect in his part, and may have acquired the proper
mannerisms, gestures and other technical parts of his art, still he
lacks a "certain something," and that something may be seen
to be the ability to communicate "feeling. "Now, those who
are in the secret know full well that many of the successful actors,
who seem to burn with passion, feeling and emotion on the stage,
really feel but little of these qualities while acting – they are
like phonographs, giving off sounds that have been registered in
them. But if you will investigate still further, you will see that in
studying their parts and practicing the same privately, these people
induced a stimulated emotion, such as the part called for, and held
it firmly in their minds, accompanying it with the appropriate
gestures, etc. , until it became firmly "set" there –
impressed upon the tablets of the mentality as the record of a
phonograph is likewise impressed upon the wax. Then, when afterward
they played the part, the outward semblance of the feelings, with the
motions, gestures, emphasis, etc. , reproduced itself and impressed
the audience. It is said that if an actor allows himself to be
actually carried away with his part so that he feels the same keenly,
the result will not be advantageous, for he is overcome with the
feeling and its effect is upon himself rather than upon his audience.
The best result is said to be obtained when one has first experienced
and felt the emotion, and then afterward reproduces it in the manner
above stated, without allowing it to control him.
We mention the above facts for the use
of those who do not naturally possess the faculty or quality of
Personal magnetism to the required degree. Such people will find it
to their advantage to endeavor to work up the desired feeling of
Enthusiastic Earnestness, in private, fixing the mental impression by
frequent private rehearsals and practice, until it becomes registered
in their "habit mind," to be reproduced upon occasions when
needed. Be a good actor – that is the advice in such cases; and
remember this, that frequent practice and private rehearsal makes the
good actor. It is a far better thing to be able to induce feeling and
enthusiasm in this way, rather than be lacking of it, on the one
hand; or to be an "emotional inebriate" on the other hand.
One may be rationally Enthusiastically Earnest, without being filled
full of "slushy gush" or maudlin emotionalism. We think
that the careful student will see just what is meant here, and will
not misunderstand us. And remember, that through this repeated
"acting" the desired quality will often become real and
"natural. "
Attractive
Personality
We have explained in our lesson on
"Individuality" that what is known, as the "Personality"
was not the real "I" of the Individual, but that instead it
formed the "Me" part of oneself – the outward appearance
of the Individual. As we have told you, the word Personality really
means the "mask" aspect of the Individual, the outward
appearance of the part in the great drama of life that he is playing.
And just as the actor may change his mask and costume, so may the
Individual change, alter and replace his Personality by other
features found desirable.
But nevertheless, while the Personality
is not the real "I," it plays an important part in the
drama of life, particularly as the audience pays more attention to
the Personality, as a rule, than it does to the real Individual
behind the mask. And so it is proper that every Individual should
cultivate and acquire a Personality that will prove attractive to his
audience, and render him acceptable to them. No, we are not preaching
deception – we regard Individuality as the Real Self, and believe
that one should build himself up to his highest and best according to
the laws of Individual Unfoldment – but, nevertheless, so long as
one must wear a Personality about him as he goes through life, we
believe that it is not only to his advantage, but is also his duty to
make that Personality as pleasing and attractive as he is able to.
You know that no matter how good, intelligent and high-minded a man
may be, if he wears the mask of an unattractive and unpleasant
Personality he is placed at a disadvantage, and drives away people
whom he might benefit and who would be glad to love him if they could
see behind his unattractive mask.
Nor are we speaking of one’s personal
physical appearance when we speak of unattractive and attractive
masks. While one’s physical appearance goes a good way in some
cases, there is a charm of Personality that far transcends that
fleeting appearance. There are many persons having beautiful faces
and forms whose personality is far from charming, and who repel
rather than attract. And there are others whose faces are homely and
whose forms are far from shapely, who have, nevertheless, that
"winning way about them" that attracts others to them.
There are people whom we are always glad to see, and whose charm of
manner makes us forget that they are not beautiful, in fact, even
their homely faces seem to become transfigured when we are in their
presence. That is what we meant by Personality, in the same way in
which we are now using it. It bears a very close relationship to
"Personal Magnetism," of which we spoke of in our preceding
lesson.
One of the first things that should be
cultivated by those wishing to develop the Charm of Personality is a
mental atmosphere of Cheerfulness. There is nothing so invigorating
as presence of a cheerful person – nothing so dispiriting as one of
those Human Wet Blankets that cast a chill over everyone and
everything with whom they come in contact. Think of your
acquaintances and you will find that you will naturally place them in
two classes – the Cheerful ones and the Gloomy ones. Sunny Jim is
always preferred to Gloomy Gus – the one you will welcome, and the
other you will fly from. The Japanese understand this law of
Personality, and one of the first things that they teach their
children is to preserve a cheerful, sunny exterior, no matter if
their hearts are breaking. With them it is considered one of the most
flagrant offenses against good form to carry their sorrows, grief and
pain into the presence of others. They reserve that side of their
life for the privacy of their own chamber – to the outside world
they present always a happy, sunny smile. And in this they are wise,
for a number of reasons (1) that they may induce a more buoyant and
positive state of mind in themselves; (2) that they may attract
cheerful persons and things to them by the Law of Attraction; and (3)
that they may present an attractive Personality to others, and
thereby be welcome and congenial associates and participants in the
work of life. There is little welcome or help for the Gloomy Gus
tribe in everyday business life – they are avoided as a pestilence
– everyone has troubles enough of his own without those of other
people added thereto.
Remember the old lines:
Laugh and the world
laughs with you;
Weep and you weep alone.
For this sad old earth is in need of mirth,
And has troubles enough of its own
Weep and you weep alone.
For this sad old earth is in need of mirth,
And has troubles enough of its own
So cultivate the Smile that Won’t
Come Off. It is a valuable asset of Personality. Not the silly,
idiotic grin, but the Smile that means something – the Real Thing.
And such a smile comes from within, and is more that skin deep. If
you want a Verbal Pattern upon which to model the mental state that
will produce this outward appearance of Personality, here it is:
"BRIGHT, CHEERFUL, AND HAPPY. "FRAME IT AND HANG it in a
prominent place in your Mental Art Gallery. Commit it to memory and
Visualize it, so that you may be able to see it before you like an
illuminated electric sign – "BRIGHT, CHEERFUL AND HAPPY"
– then endeavor to materialize the idea into reality within your
mind. Think it out – act it out – and it will become real to you.
Then will you have Something Worthwhile in the shape of Personality?
This may seem simple and childish to you – but if you will work it
out into actuality, it will be worth thousands of dollars to you, no
matter what walk of life you may be in.
Another valuable bit of Personality is
that of Self Respect. If you have real Self Respect it will manifest
itself in your outward demeanor and appearance. If you don’t have
it, you had better start in and cultivate the appearance of Self
Respect, and then Remember that you are a MAN, or a WOMAN, as the
case may be, and not a poor, crawling Worm on the Dust of a Human
Door Mat. Face the world firmly and fearlessly, keeping your eyes
well to the front. HOLD UP YOUR HEAD!There is nothing like a stiff
backbone and a raised head for meeting the world. The man with bent
head seems to apologize for living and being on the earth – and the
world is apt to take such at their own valuation. An erect head
enables one to walk past the dragons at the door of Success. A writer
gives the following good advice on this subject:"Hold your ear
lobes directly over your shoulders, so that a plumb line hung from
the ears describes the line of your body. Be sure also not to carry
the head either to the right or left, but vertical. Many men make the
mistake, especially while waiting for a customer to finish some
important piece of business, of leaning the head to the right or
left. This indicates weakness. A study of men discloses the fact that
the strong men never tilt the head. Their heads sit perfectly
straight on strong necks. Their shoulders, held easily, yet firmly,
in position, are inspiring in their strength – indicating poise.
Every line of the body, in other words, denotes the thought of the
bearer. "The value of this advice lies not only in the fact that
it gives to you the "appearance" of Self Respect (no
trifling matter, by the way), but also that it tends to cultivate a
corresponding mental state within you. For just as "Thought
takes form in Action," so do Actions develop mental states –
it is a rule that works both ways. So think Self Respect and act Self
Respect. Let the "I AM" within you manifest itself. Don’t
crawl – don’t cringe – don’t grovel – but do be a Real
Human Being. Another bit of Personality worth cultivating is the Art
of Taking an Interest in Others. Many people go through the world so
wrapped up in their own affairs that they convey the impression of
being "apart" and aloof from others with whom they come in
contact. This mental state manifests in a most unpleasant form of
Personality. Such people are not only regarded as "cold"
and lacking heart and soul, but they also give others the impression
of selfishness and hardness, and the public is apt to let such a
person alone – to leave him to his own selfish moods and mental
states. Such a one never becomes popular – never becomes a good
mixer among men. Taking an Interest in Others is an art that well
repays the student of Success to cultivate it. Of course one must
always keep the main chance before him and not allow his own
interests to suffer by reason of his interest in others – that goes
without saying, for unreasonable altruism is just as one sided as
undue selfishness. But there is a middle course. You will find
something of interest in every person with whom you come in contact,
and if you will but turn your attention to that interest it will
manifest itself in such a way that the person will be conscious of
it, will appreciate it, and will be glad to respond by taking an
interest in you. This is not deceit, or time serving, or flattery –
it is the Law of Compensation working on the mental plane – you get
what you give. If you will stop and think a moment you will find that
the people whose Personality seems the most attractive to you are the
people who seem to Take an Interest in your own personality.
This Taking an Interest in Others
manifests itself in many ways, one of which is in making you a Good
Listener. Now, we do not mean that you should allow yourself to be
made a dumping ground for all the talk of all the people with whom
you come in contact – if you do this you will have time for nothing
else. You must use ordinary judgment and tact in regulating the time
you give to others, depending upon the person and the particular
circumstances of the case. What we do mean is that while you’re
listening you should Listen Well. There is no subtler compliment that
one person can pay to another than Listening Well to him or her. To
Listen Well is to Listen with Interest. And that is something that
cannot be very well taught in a book. Perhaps the best way to express
the idea is to say, "Listen as you Would be Listened unto. "The
Golden Rule may be applied to many things and ideas, with benefit and
good results. The man who listens well is well thought of by those to
whom he listens. In this connection we are always reminded of the old
story of Carlyle, who, as everyone knows, was reputed to be a crusty,
crabby old chap, prone to sarcastic remarks and brusque treatment of
those with whom he engaged in conversation. The tale goes that one
day a man called upon Carlyle – and the man understood the Art of
Listening Well. He so turned the conversations as to get Carlyle
started on a subject dear to his heart – and then he kept quiet and
Listened Well. Carlyle talked "a straight streak" for
several hours, and grew quite enthusiastic over his topic. When at
last the visitor arose to depart, he was forced to actually tear
himself away from Carlyle, who, following him to the door, manifested
unusual enthusiasm and good spirits, and bidding him good-bye, said
warmly:"Come again, mon – come again and often – ye have a
wonderfully bright mind, and I’ve enjoyed your conversation very
much indeed – ye are a most delightful conversationalist. "
Be careful not to bore people with your
personal experiences – better forget your personal self in talking
to others, except when it is right to the point to bring yourself in.
People do not want to hear what a wonderful fellow you are – they
want to tell you what wonderful people they are, which is very much
more pleasant to them. Don’t retail your woes, nor recite your many
points of excellence. Don’t tell what a wonderful baby you have –
the other people have babies of their own to think about. You must
endeavor to talk about things of interest to the other person, if he
wants to do the talking himself. Forget yourself and Take and
Interest in the Other Person.
Some of the best retail merchants
impress upon their salespeople the advantage of cultivating the
mental attitude and personality that you will give the customer the
impression that you are "on his side of the counter" –
that is, that you are taking a personal interest in his being
well-served, suited, well-treated and satisfied. The salesman who is
able to create that impression is well advanced on the road to
success in his particular line. This is a difficult thing to
describe, but a little observation and thought and practice along the
lines laid down in the preceding lessons will do much for you in this
direction. A recent writer truthfully says on this subject:"Suppose,
for instance, you are in trade or a profession, and wish to increase
your business. It will not do, when you sell goods or services, to
make the mater a merely perfunctory transaction, taking the
customer’s money, giving him good value and letting him go away
feeling that you have no interest in the matter beyond giving him a
fair deal and profiting thereby. Unless he feels that you have a
personal interest in him and his needs, and that you are honestly
desirous to increase his welfare, you have made a failure and are
losing ground. When you can make every customer feel that you are
really trying to advance his interests as well as you own, your
business will grow. It is not necessary to give premiums, or heavier
weights, or better values than others give to accomplish this; it is
done by putting life and interest into every transaction, however
small. "This writer has stated the idea clearly, forcibly and
truthfully, and you will do well to heed his advice and to put it
into actual practice.
Another important point in Personality
is Self-Control, particularly in the matter of Keeping your Temper.
Anger is a mark of weakness, not of strength. The man who loses his
temper immediately places himself at a disadvantage. Remember the old
saying:"Those whom the gods would destroy, they first make
angry. "Under the influence of anger a man does all sorts of
foolish things that he afterwards regrets. He throws judgment,
experience and caution to the winds, and acts like a crazy man. In
fact, anger is a sort of madness – a phase of insanity – if you
doubt this look carefully at the face of the first angry man you meet
and see how irrational he looks and acts. It is a well-known fact
that if one keeps cool while his opponent is angry, he has decidedly
the best of the matter – for he is a sane man dealing with an
irrational one. It is the better policy to allow the other fellow to
"stew in his own fat" of anger, keeping cool yourself at
the same time. It is a comparatively easy matter to cool down an
angry man without becoming angry with you – and as it takes two to
make a quarrel, the matter is soon over. You will find that a control
of the outward expression will give you control of you inner mental
state. You will find that if you are able to control your voice,
keeping it calm, steady and low-pitched, you will not fly into a
passion, and more than this, you will find by so doing that the voice
of the other fellow will gradually come down from its loud,
boisterous tones, and in the end both of you will be pitching your
voices in the same key – and you have set that key-note. This is
worth remembering – this control of the voice – it is a secret
well worth knowing and practicing.
While we are on the subject of voice,
we would like to call your attention to a further control of voice,
or rather a cultivation of voice. A man having a well controlled,
even, pleasant voice has an advantage over others having equal
abilities in other directions, but lacking that one quality. The
value of a vibrant, resonant, soft and flexible voice is great. If
you have such a voice, you are blessed. If you lack it, why start to
work and cultivate it. Oh, yes, you can! Did you ever hear of Nathan
Sheppard, the well-known public speaker? Then listen to these words
of his, telling of his natural disadvantages of voice, and how he
overcame them and became a great speaker. He says:"When I made
up my mind to devote my mind and body to public speaking, I was told
by my teachers and governors that I would certainly fail; that my
articulation was a failure, and it was; that my organs of speech were
inadequate, and they were; and that if I would screw up my little
mouth it could be put into my mother’s thimble, and it could.
Stinging words these certainly were, and cruel ones. I shall never
forget them; possibly, however, they stung me into a persistency that
I would have never known but for these words. At all events, that is
the philosophy of the ‘self made’ world of mankind. I may not
have accomplished much; I do not claim to have accomplished much. It
is something I have made a living out of, my art for twenty years,
and that I do claim to have done in spite of every obstacle and every
discouragement, by turning my will upon my voice and vocal organs, by
cultivating my elocutionary instincts and my ear for the cadences of
rhetoric, by knowing what I and my voice and my feelings were about,
by making the most of myself. "After these words, anything that
we might add regarding the possibility of acquiring a good voice by
will, practice and desire would be superfluous. Pick out the kind of
voice that you think best adapted to your work, and then cultivate it
by practice, determination and desire. If Mr. Sheppard could become a
famous public speaker with such obstacles as these, then for you to
say "but I can’t" is to stamp you as a weakling.
It has been suggested to us that we
have a few words to say regarding the carriage or physical bearing of
the person, as an important part of Personality – particularly in
the phase of Walking. But we do not think that is necessary to add to
what we have said in this lesson regarding the subject, in connection
with what we have also said regarding the mental state of Self
Respect. The main thing is to cultivate the Mental State of Self
Respect, and the rest will follow as a natural consequence. Thought
takes form in Action, and the man who has Self Respect imbedded in
his mind will surely so carry and demean him that he will give
evidence of his mental state in his every physical action, gesture,
carriage and motion. He must have it within, as well as without. One
must pay attention to the exterior aspect of course, particularly in
the matter of dress. One should cultivate Cleanliness and Neatness,
of both body and clothing. To be well dressed does not mean to me
showily clad – in fact, the person who is best dressed is
inconspicuously dressed. Cultivate a quiet, refined taste, expressed
in quality rather than in showiness. And above all – be Clean.
In conclusion, let us impress upon you
again and again that that which we call Personality is but the outer
mask of the Individual Within. The mask may be changed by an effort
of the Will, aided by an intelligent discrimination. First find out
what kind of Personality you should have, and then set to work to
cultivate it- to grow it, in fact. Form the Mental Image of what you
want to be – then think of it – desire it ardently – will that
you shall have it – then Act It Out, over and over again; rehearsal
after rehearsal, until you will actually materialize your ideal into
objective reality. Make a good mental pattern or mold, and then pour
in your mental material steadily, and slowly! From the mold will come
forth the Character and Personality that you desire and need. Then
polish up this newborn Personality until it becomes radiant with the
brightness of Culture.
You can be what you want to be – if
you only want to hard enough. Desire is the mother of the Actuality.
Remember once more the old rule – EARNEST DESIRE – CONFIDENT
EXPECTATION – FIRM RESOLVE – these are the three things that lead
to ACCOMPLISHMENT. And now that we have given you this little Secret
of Success – USE IT. "It is Up to You" to "Make
Good. "We have "pressed the button – you must do the
rest!"
An Afterword
On reading the foregoing pages after
they have been set up in type, we are impressed with the idea that in
spite of our determination, as expressed in the first few pages, not
to attempt to lay down a code or rules or a course of conduct which
should be considered as an infallible Guide to Success – in spite
of our vowed determination not to pose as a teacher or preacher –
we have nevertheless managed to do considerable in the direction of
"laying down the law" so far as is concerned naming of
things to be done, or avoided.
However, we feel that the advice given
is good, and that the various examples quoted are calculated to
arouse within the mind of the reader the Spirit that leads to
Success. And, with this thought, we send forth these pages to those
who may attract them to themselves, or who may be attracted to them –
under the Law of Attraction. But we feel that we shall not have
completed our task unless we, once more, remind the reader that
Success is not to be gained by a blind and slavish following of
anyone’s rules or advice, our own any more than any other persons.
There is no Royal Road to Success – no Patent Process by which the
unsuccessful are to be magically transformed into Captains of
Industry or Magnates of Wall Street. There is nothing more amusing,
or pitiful, according to how one views it, than the bulk of Success
Talk given to the public by self-appointed teachers and preachers.
There is no one who can in a few pages point out to seekers after
Success an infallible method whereby each and everyone may attain the
Success and Attainment that their hearts crave. It is a cold, hard
truth that each and every man must work out his own salvation in the
matter of Success. Rules and advice may greatly assist – and they
undoubtedly do this – but the individual must accomplish the real
work. He must carve out his own Destiny, and there is no power above
or below that will do the work for him if he refuses to perform it
himself.
The old saying that "God helps him
who helps himself" is true in more senses than one. It is true
in the sense that the Higher Aid seems to refuse to come to the
assistance of one who is not willing to strike out for him and do his
best. But it is true in another sense – this Aid does come to one
who will throw heart and soul into the task set before him, and who
will do each days work the best he know how, with hope in his soul,
and a confident expectation of better things right ahead, around the
turn of the road. The wise man is the one who takes courageously the
step right ahead of him, planting his foot firmly and confidently
upon it, although he is unable to see further ahead. To such a one
step after step is illuminated as he proceeds, and he reaches his
goal, whereas the shrinking ones, who have feared to take the obvious
step because they could not see beyond it, are still waiting for
something to turn up. This waiting business is a poor policy – as
Garfield said:"Don’t wait for something to turn up – go out
and turn something up. "Take the step before you boldly and
hopefully, and the next step will then appear. The thing to do is
that which lies right before you to be done – do it the best you
know how, feeling assured that in its doing you will be making
progress toward the better things for which your heart has been
longing. New ideas come while you are in action – in the doing of
things comes the inspiration for the doing of greater things. You can
always get a better "running start" when in action, which
will give you an advantage over the best "standing start"
imaginable. Get into action and motion.
In this little work we have endeavored
to call your attention to something of far greater importance than a
mere code of rules and general advice. We have pointed out to you the
glorious fact that within each of you there is a Something Within,
which if once aroused would give you a greatly increased power and
capacity. And so we have tried to tell you this story of the
Something Within, from different viewpoints, so that you might catch
the idea in several ways. We firmly believe that Success depends most
materially upon a recognition and manifestation of this Something
Within – we think that a study of the character and work of all
successful men will show you that differ as they do in personal
characteristics, they all manifest that consciousness of that
Something Within them that gives them an assurance of Inward Power
and Strength, from which proceeds Courage and Self-Confidence. You
will find that the majority of successful men feel that there is a
Something helping them – back of and behind their efforts. Some
have called this Thing by the name of "Luck" or "Destiny,"
or some such term. But it is all a form of the same recognition of an
Inward Power that they are "helped" in some way, although
they are not quite sure of the nature of the helper – in fact, the
majority of them do not stop to speculate upon its nature, they are
too busy and are content with the knowledge that It is there. This
Something Within is the Individual – the "I" in each of
them – the source of the power which men manifest when they express
it. And this little book is written in the hopes that to many it may
be the first step toward the recognition, unfoldment and
manifestation of this Inward Power.
We earnestly urge upon you to cultivate
this "I AM" consciousness – that you may realize the
Power Within you. And then there will come naturally to you the
correlated consciousness which expresses itself in the statement, "I
CAN and I WILL," one of the grandest affirmations of Power that
man can make. This "I Can and I Will" consciousness is that
expression of the Something Within, which we trust that you will
realize and manifest. We feel that behind all the advice that we can
give you, this one thing is the PRIME FACTOR in the Secret of
Success.
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